Tuesday, October 10, 2023

Surprise! I Took my kids to Six Flags instead of the State Fair

 Surprised my 13 year old twins with a trip to  Six Flags over Texas! Boy, were they surprised and happy.

I purchased season tickets. the Diamond Pass, so I'd get the preferred parking and wouldn't have to park in the hinterland. Plus the perks of 20% off food and drinks is a nice bonus. VIP lounge at Six Flags water parks during the summer sounds like heaven.

The day started off cool but we didn't get out to the park until 2 p.m. because I slept in on Columbus/Indigenous Peoples Day.  So it was crowded. We had to wait in line to get into the park several minutes.  Since I have a heat monitor I brought a purse, to carry the monitor phone easier, which means we had to go through security. Security at Six Flags is more than just them looking through your backpack or purse, it entails, your belongings going through a security camera like at the airport. And then getting wanded by a security guard. I was a little paranoid that my heart rate monitor would set off the wand but it didn't. Then the kids who didn't have purses or bags got wanded, too. What the hay?

I'm not sure people who didn't bring purses or backpacks got the privilege of being wanded when they entered the park. Not sure why my children needed to be wanded but okay. There was definitely a police/security presence at Six Flags today.  Not sure if they were on hand because of Fright Fest or some disturbances that have been occurring at the park recently.

We had a good time, the lines were long and it was hot for October, 93F degrees but the park had cooling stations and plenty of cold water was available for purchase. Also, lots of shady areas to sit.

I asked the kids what they wanted to ride first and the Sombrero was their first choice. My daughter says it is a tradition. The wait was short. It's the perfect ride for Nathaniel, not too scary, not fast. He said he thought the ride was probably similar to the movement of the tripod in War of the Worlds. Perhaps. 

As I was exiting my seat in the Sombrero ride, my skort got caught on the locking mechanism and I was afraid I was going to rip my skort as I detangled myself. As soon, as I was free we briskly walked to the Conquistador ride.  Emma wanted to sit in the back but unfortunately for her some older boys sat in the last row and she didn't feel comfortable sitting with them. Nathaniel and I chose to sit, in the row one away from the middle. I felt like this was very brave of Nathaniel and reminded him that the ride wouldn't be any rougher than the first day of sea on our Thanksgiving cruise. That was a day to remember but I digress. Both of the kids enjoyed the thrilling ride, it was fun and my stomach dropped as the ship went straight up as it rocked and rode the waves. 

We decided not to get in line for La Vibora aka the bobsled ride, it was too long my daughter thought. Just as well, I always end up bruised after riding it. A couple of years ago, I bruised my tailbone riding that ride. I'm not sure Nathaniel really enjoys it. So we went looking for food and water in the Texas section. The smell from the restaurants was foul, and very over powering so we settled for chips and a drink at the Mercado. 

Then we waited in line for the log boat, or El Aserradero ride. Only one flume was working, which seems to be the case for the last 4 or 5 years. The line didn't wrap around, it was only one long line from start to finish but it took over 45 minutes for us to get to our boat. Which got me to thinking about purchasing a flash pass. I'm fairly sure the flash pass riders were causing the wait in line. I watched the log boats as the passengers boarded and unboarded and was unable to discern what  protocol was in place for the ride. Some logs were leaving 10 seconds after another, some 15 seconds and others at least a minute had elapsed before the next log departed the station. The logs would return to the station and hit the log in front that was empty of passengers but not released from the unboarding/exit area. I'm sure there is a method or rhythm to the departures and arrivals but I was unable to figure it out. Some logs left with a couple of passengers, a few with more than 4 people and even one log went on it's journey with one passenger - seems like a waste of space and time. Meanwhile the line is getting longer and the ride is fairly short. We finally board after waiting 40 minutes and Nathaniel notices the water below the ride is red. Perhaps from Fright Fest? The ride was short, it had a small lift and at the end of the ride a longer lift and steep descent. We posed for the picture but the picture booth wasn't open. Bummer. Six Flags lost money on that, but it could have been a staffing problem, who knows. 

From there we went to the Shockwave which Emma rode twice. She really liked it. She was totally stoked about it. The line was short. Nathaniel and I waited in line with her so she wouldn't have to be alone by herself. As we were walking up the ramp, a kid about 12 or 13 runs in front of me. I had been walking behind a family for about 5 minutes with their annoying basketball dribbling and slow as molasses walking pace. I asked the kid if he was cutting in line in front of me and he slowly took a few steps backward. Line cutting has been getting out of hand at Six Flags and now the corporation is taking steps to oust people who cut lines.

The Run Away Mine Train is quite  possibly my favorite ride at Six Flags over Texas, it's bumpy, it's rough, it's thrilling and kind of schmaltzy. My main irritation with the mine train is the installation of molded seats in the mine cars. I've lost 40 pounds and my butt barely fits in the molded seats. One of the thrills of the ride was sliding on the seat and bracing yourself around the twists and turns along the ride. The Mr. Freeze ride is right next to the Runaway Mine Train and our cars passed at the same time along the tracks and it was incredibly loud. I thought it added to the excitement of the ride but my kids disagreed with me.  I enjoyed the Halloween decorations scattered around the ride and especially the spooky decor in the Saloon lift, I would imagine it would be creepy at night.

We were disappointed that several rides were closed. Emma likes to ride  El Diablo aka El Loopo in the Spanish section of the park. And the Caddo Lake Barge  was closed. It's a good ride for my son who gets dizzy and vomitous easily.  It was a hot day, it would have been refreshing to ride  the Roaring Rapids. The Speedway Go Karts, the landmark orange Oil Derrick and the Rodeo ride were all closed. Not sure if it was because of technical issues or lack of staffing.  We left the amusement park before Fright Fest officially began. My daughter was drained from being around so many people - a wee bit introverted - and my son scares easily so it was time to depart before a ghoulie jumped out of the bushes.



Friday, December 25, 2020

Easy Peppermint Fudge

 I made a couple of different fudges this season. Easy 3 ingredient fudge which was very rich and full of rich chocolate flavor but not very creamy.  I made some peppermint fudge for my daughter with equal parts bittersweet and milk chocolate, still not creamy.

I woke up Christmas morning realizing what I had done wrong.  The fudge needs fat!  So I melted down my fudge and added a stick of butter and about 5 marshmallows. Stirring until all ingredients were thoroughly mixed together. Then I poured the mixture into a meatloaf pan that was lined with  parchment paper. I added peppermints on top of the fudge and placed the pan into the refrigerator. After two hours, I had a piece of my new fudge and it was perfect! Creamy, minty, rich chocolate - so divine!


Recipe:

one can Eagle  sweetened condensed milk

one stick butter

6 ounces milk chocolate

9 ounces bittersweet chocolate  finely chopped or shaved. I used a vegetable peeler to shave the chocolate blocks - my hands really hurt after shaving

1 tsp vanilla extract

1 tsp peppermint extract  I use Smith & Massey

5 marshmallows

crushed peppermints I used my rubber mallet to crush the mints that I placed in a plastic sandwich bag


on low heat, melt the chocolate into the sweetened condensed milk, add the extracts, then the marshmallows, mix all ingredients until combined. 

Line a 9x9 square baking dish with parchment paper, leaving a 2 inch over hang on all sides.

Pour hot fudge into the lined 9x9 baking dish. Add crushed peppermints, if desired and put into a refrigerator to cool and set.


some people use marshmallow fluff, I used 5 large marshmallows which I melted into my melted chocolate. 


Random Thoughts about Horse Riding and Showing in 2020

 2020, it's been a year of ups and downs, panic and fear, suffering, trepidation, patience, kindness, happiness and that is just from horse back riding.  I learned new skills, techniques and got  out of my comfort zone which gave me excellent foundation for the two shows I participated in the latter half of the year. I spent the first half of the year on injured reserve. I tore my Achilles tendon on my left foot at the 2019 End of the Year show and spent about 4 months recovering from that. Instead of riding Silver bareback I rode him in my dressage saddle  without stirrups. I wasn't going to give up actual riding for 4 months. So i "schooled" dressage for about 6 weeks, mainly sitting trot. I got brave and cantered a few laps.  
it was time well spent as I just got to fool around with my horse and watch my kids ride. My daughter had to sit out the last couple of horse shows in 2019 because of "growing pains", it's a real thing. Her muscles and tendons/ligaments had not caught up with her bones, so she was in a lot of pain. 

We were lucky our state and county considered horse back riding exercise. We were able to go to the barn several times a week. We got exercise but most importantly we got human contact from outside our family. We got to socialize! Very important for everyone to socialize.  Horse people know how to distance socially especially around horses, if you don't maintain proper distance, there is a fairly good chance your horse is going to kick another horse. Maintain at least one adult horse space, or two ponies space from each other. 

I was released for riding in June, yay! Just in time for hot weather. I still had to be careful with not over stretching my left leg. It's not easy remembering not to put your left heel down while riding especially when it has been so ingrained over a lifetime, but pain was a quick reminder.  I used my 3 foot tall mounting block to get on and off the horse while injured. And now my horse now walks over to the mounting block at the end of the ride.  It helps both my aching knee and feet not to slam down on them.   

AFter slugging, er, I mean riding through the hot, humid summer, I was ready to start competing.  But my trainer does not like to show in the summer, too hot and humid. It's hard on both horse and rider.  My husband decided to go to his second competition this year in October. Everyone in my family was riding in the competition but me. I didn't bring any show clothes because this was my hubby's time in the show ring, not mine. Well, I regretted not bringing any show clothes because the division he was in didn't have enough riders in it, so I got up early Saturday mornin, drove to Dallas from Tyler and returned to the Tyler Rose Horse Park late Saturday morning, so I could ride in the division.  It was well worth it, the fences just came so easily. We got all our strides and even our lead changes. Silver was like point me in the right direction and I'll make everything happen. And it did.  It was a two day show but it was the best ride I had ever had over fences in that division.  We didn't do as well on the flat. My husband beat me on the flat!  But I won Champion of the Rusty Stirrups division. 

The end of the year show proved to be a bit more challenging for Silver and I. Even my husband had trouble with Scout. Scout seemed to decide that he was going to go fast over the course. I'm proud of my husband for staying the course and not giving up on his horse or the show. 

the last day of the show, my husband and I entered the 18" equitation classic. I was scared to death. My earlier hunter rounds were terrible in the Rusty Stirrups division. I could barely get Silver to move faster than a tranter and he practically crawled over the fences, even the judge was telling me to use more leg - true story. I pushed through my anxiety about the Classic and ended up third, true I was beaten by an 8 year old but I had a lot of fun in the ring. I got Silver off my leg and I was determined to make every fence and lead change work. No trantering and crawling over fences for us, baby!

So after analyzing myself this year, I realize the longer I wait for a show, it seems the worse I do. My trainer will enter me into a division on a lark and I usually do well. I believe I am over thinking it and scaring myself. I won the Rusty Stirrup division because I wasn't there to win, only to help fill up the division. The end of the year show, I was there to win and the pressure I put on my self caused me to not do as well as I could. Perhaps I should drink a couple of sips of whiskey before I enter the show ring. I'm not sure how to relax during a competition. If showing is about having fun, why do I want to barf?

When Silver is balanced, collected and uphill, all our spots to the jumps become effortless. I have to remember to sit back, half halt when necessary and wait for the jump.  I like to jump ahead and "help" Silver jump. I need to remember it's his job to jump it, it's my job to get him to the right jump and patiently wait. And my helping him, actually hinders him. Sunday told me to work on getting him off my leg and not get behind it. which is really a nice way of saying, stay in rhythm with your horse. Be connected, be one. 


Monday, May 14, 2018

Rusty Stirrups Equitation over Fences May 12, 2018

Silver and I finally made it to the show ring this year after bad weather, show cancellations, hoof abscess, spring break, my pneumonia, etc...
We had a great ride and I felt so confident riding him. Even his crazy flying lead changes don't scare me (as much) anymore.  I do totally love this horse!







In the Zone

My riding takes a back seat to everything else. Which is normal for moms, I think. Family comes first. Riding is my therapy.
I had to take time off in February because it rained...a lot...and the barn where I board doesn't have an indoor arena. It does have a beautiful outdoor arena but I don't ride in the rain if I can help it.  Then came March with spring break. We went on a wonderful Disney cruise around the Caribbean. The day we get back in town, my sister in law comes to stay with us for two weeks.
So I finally get out to the barn and my horse has gone lame.  Poor guy had an abscess in his hoof...from all that rain...I had planned to ride in a horse show the weekend he went lame, so quick find a horse for Charlotte.  I tried out the new schooling horse, Tilly but I was unsure that we were a good fit. She has a lovely collected canter but her jump was different from Silver. I wasn't getting it.  The next horse was Elijah. My husband really likes riding this horse. He can sit is canter. And I'll be danged if I can't sit that less than smooth, uncollected canter.  But after a couple of weeks of riding him, I was starting to have problems over fences with him. So I got to ride Gypsy. I have been a little skeptical of Gypsy because the first time I rode her, she ran off with me.  I have fallen for this mare. She is wonderful and got me to enjoy jumping again. Really enjoy jumping.

After my 6 week hiatus from riding, I was a bit intimidated about riding a full course. Even though I had been jumping at 2 feet in the fall.  I could ride one maybe two jumps at a time with some trepidation.  I was blessed to be in a group lesson with two more experienced riders. My trainer set up a grid. It scared me but I enjoyed watching Amy and Michaela jump the grid.  Kelsey offered the grid or a line of two jumps.  I decided to feel my fear and do it anyway. I was assured that all I had to do was set Gypsy up and she would easily do the rest.  And she did!  I just stayed balanced and she jumped them all.  So I did it again that lesson.

 And I did it again another lesson, another grid...I figured  I could jump 5 jumps at one time, or 5 jumps in a course, just get it over with. And the more I jumped the grid, the better I got and the more I relaxed. And then suddenly I could do courses without freaking out.

And then Silver got better and we started having fun. True he kicked his heels up after some grid work and he crop hopped after a jump but he was happy with himself! And I stayed on! And I was happy with myself. And we did some flying lead changes, he hops a bit and I feel like he's bucking but I'm starting to get used to it.  Now that I know he's not trying to buck me off, I'm good with it and I tell him I'm happy about it, instead of slowing him down we keep going forward.




Unmet Mother's Day Expectations

Last week I was filled with energy and new found confidence over jumps.  I had found my zen. my happy place.

Today I am unhappy and I should be filled with joy!  I won my rusty stirrups division this weekend, 2 Blues in Equitation on the Flat and Equitation over Fences and a second place in  Equitation over Fences.  I was cool and collected and absolutely not panicked at the show. I even rode my horse in the warm up, no one got on  him before I did. I just got on and rode him, jumped a few fences and enjoyed myself.

But the day after mother's day, I'm sitting here furious, mad, sad and lonely...why you ask.  Not because my horse mistook my foot for shavings and crushed it. Not because I spent part of mother's day in the ER checking out my foot and then laying in bed resting it.

I'm mad because my husband didn't take the time to get me a friggin' mother's day card. He didn't lift a finger for mother's day. Yes, he fed the kids when I went to the ER and he fed them dinner but he left all the dishes in the sink, didn't unload the dishwasher...thanks so kind of you to leave that for me to do that the next day.  I made myself a grilled cheese sandwich for dinner although I was really tired from the painkillers, I couldn't sleep because I was too hungry.

He didn't have any lunch, brunch or dinner plans for the family.  He didn't help the kids get mommy a mother's day gift. No flowers, nothing, nada, zip, zilch.  In the past, we have gone out for Mother's Day Brunch. And he would get me flowers.  The kids usually make me something at school to give me. Nathaniel had brought me a bag from school - we've lost it. But Natty is in on my good side.  Emma quickly made me something in Sunday School.

And I shouldn't be so upset except he forgot me on Valentine's Day, too. Nothing from the kids and nothing from him.  Granted Valentine's Day fell on Ash Wednesday, I get that a secular holiday gets trumped by Ash Wednesday but really nothing?  I got him some cute red/white striped pants. I originally bought him a new suit but took it back because it was over the top.  He has yet to wear those pants, so I will take them back.  Nordstrom's is good about returning things.

We talked about  him not doing anything for me on Valentine's several days  afterwards. I told him it really upset me.  He said he didn't think I was that into it because I had forgotten a wedding anniversary.  He HAD forgotten the wedding anniversary!  He didn't make any plans that night and he didn't ask me to get a babysitter for that night. I try not to have hurt feelings.

I ended up buying some pretty 14k gold earrings to make up for Valentine's Day.  When we went on our spring break cruise, I bought a fantastic 14k gold Tinkerbell pendant. But I paid for it. I don't need his permission to spend my money!

My step son came into town for the Scottish Highland Games this past weekend and my husband went to the Games when we already had plans in place for the Spring Fling Horse show. I was determined to get to that horse show. I had already missed a few because my horse was lame or the show was rained out. The plan was for my husband to spend the day with our kids while mommy went to the horse show. It was a perfect horse show because the hunter divisions were on Saturday instead of Sunday. My division was in the morning. The kids didn't want to go and I understand if they aren't participating why would they be interested. Frankly, I didn't want to have to keep up with them, so he was going to stay with them.  So I ended up having to find a babysitter to watch them so he could enjoy himself with his older son, normally I don't mind. it's just that we already had plans. And it was mother's day weekend. So he did nothing for me. Nothing. He got to do what he wanted. Why should I expect my children to be any different?

I'm thankful for my trainer, Kelsey and her assistant, Michelle for being my cheerleaders. I'm also very thankful for Michaela, who rides Silver and has shown him in upper divisions for being my  cheerleader. She is wonderful!  Her boyfriend is kind to me. His son likes to ride Silver and has shown him, too. It's nice to have a little group of people to cheer me on because my family doesn't.  Most people think my husband is watching the kids when I go to shows but I actually have a babysitter. I hire someone to watch them during church because he is too busy with choir. I think I just depressed myself further. It hurts my feelings. It really does.



Tuesday, December 27, 2016

Riding on the Lunge line

December riding Lessons were spent on a lunge line. I was quite apprehensive at first, even though the time I had spent with Kai Handt 25 years ago was on a lunge line.
Once I got used to not having reins to depend on for balance, she started me holding my hands on my hips, I progressed to hands on my helmet, which was annoying because the headband I was wearing to keep my ears warm in the 35 degree weather would slip into my eyes. But that's another story.
As I progressed each week, the lunge lessons grew harder, not only was I holding my arms straight in front of me (zombie arms), roller coaster arms (straight up), out to the side but I was twisting to the outside and the inside with each of those positions at the trot.

A couple of days before Christmas, she had me ride with my arms above my head at the canter and twisting inside/outside, it was the most incredible feeling. I think she thought I was petrified, but I felt like I was flying. At first, I was nervous, but I realized Silver was not going anywhere but in a circle. I wasn't going to come off. So why was I worried?  Head up, eyes off the sand, looking ahead, stay balanced, canter, hold you arms up and twist to the right, now to the left.  This has seriously been the best abdominal work out ever!  I was sore for a couple of days which has really made me more aware of my lack of abdominal strength, so I'm constantly engaging my abs instead of letting it all hang out. It's been almost 7 years since I had the twins and I'm ready to get serious with my lack of core strength.

So two days after Christmas, Kelsey has me back on the lunge line with the EquiCube - a 5 pound rubber block with handles. So zombie arms holding the Equicube in front of me at the canter - I wanted to throw it at my trainer - I'm so weak.  Then she had me hold it over my head at the canter. I wondered if my helmet could handle the weight as it crashed on top of my head from my weak arms. I don't know the answer to that because I mustered all my strength to keep it above my head, it was akin to a military press. 7 hours later I can really feel it in the top of my shoulders.
And much to my surprise, I got to ride Silver with my reins!  And over a course of a month, riding on the lunge line has developed my core and given me increased stability. He stumbled and I remained balanced.  He started off at a slow canter and increased his speed and not only did I stay on, I remained balanced in the saddle and was able to transition to a beautiful stop while remaining balanced.  I was balanced, he was balanced.

I came away with a new realization today. I know that my feet pronate and this is a problem when I ride as my heels are in contact with the horse instead of my calves. But this month has really emphasized my foot/calf/leg position. Today I realized when I really turn my toes in towards the horse, my whole leg has to work, I can really feel my thighs working to stay balanced. A long time ago, a respected horsewoman had said riders shouldn't use their thighs to hold on to the horse especially when bareback. How the heck am I going to stay on then?  I think she meant to say, the whole leg is supposed to be connected to the horse, not just the thigh.  She was talking about the "ride a buck" bareback class. It's easy to keep the buck  under your thigh when walking and in the sitting trot, but not as much posting or cantering. But I digress..

I told my trainer I hoped we could continue the lunge lessons in the future because I can really feel my core working. It also helps me get over whatever fears I might be harboring about my beautiful grey gelding. That fall in July really set me back - no pun intended - in my riding.

Wednesday, November 30, 2016

The Three Second Half Halt

Nothing like taking a riding lesson from your trainer while her dressage instructor hangs out at the barn. My trainer is taking dressage lessons from a notable dressage instructor, who only works with professionals. So I'm trying to ride like he is not sitting near the arena, soaking in the sunshine, watching me...he was probably watching her teach.

So I learned a new concept today. Previously, Kelsey showed me how to use my hands in a zig zagging motion, not sawing on the reins, so that the horse's head goes side to side and back and forth -- which looks atrocious and probably feels the same --  I gently squeeze the reins with my hands. Right hand, squeeze, left hand squeeze   half halts to remind him, I'm up here and hey, are you listening...don't look at the woods at the end of the arena...listen to me, no, don't speed up...

Today, we took it a little more extreme, still not see sawing his mouth, so that his head swings from side to side but that he listens to me and drops his head and engages his behind. Really listening to me. I heard her ask if I could feel anything in the reins. Why yes, and I'm gently squeezing one hand and then the other - I think I'm doing great. But she says she can't see my arms move. Why would my arms move? I'm just using my hands.

Then she says, to squeeze and pull back on the rein for three seconds, release that hand and repeat on the other side. Well, that made a big difference in our riding! He really collected himself, especially when I applied my calves to his side while doing the 3 second half halt. Total control. He was not going anywhere I didn't want him.

Then we did some canter work and it was fabulous! He really has a lovely canter. I felt like I was out cantering across a pasture at my family's farm. It was that much fun!

We are using yet another bit, the Kimberwick Uster Snaffle bit gives me a lot of leverage and control without head tossing like the Dressage-Pelham-Bits/FES-Snaffle-Elite-Pelham/ used with double reins.  The transition from canter to trot to walk was smooth and almost seamless. Wow! This is how it's supposed to happen!

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New Boho Leather Bolos

New Boho necklaces for the holidays! Nice stocking stuffers!











Tuesday, November 15, 2016

post schooling show

My first time back in my new saddle since the horse show I participated the day after my birthday.  I placed twice. I think Nathaniel liked that I had actually gotten a green ribbon. He loves the color green. He immediately took my ribbons and hung them in my closet with my ribbons from the Hidden Lake show in October.
I got 5th place out of 6 even though my horse trotted instead of cantered to the left.  My choice. I wasn't feeling it.  The horse that placed 6th apparently, cantered/galloped around the ring at break neck speed. I did get my right lead canter and it was a nice, pleasant pace. And I didn't fall off - that was a big plus.
My last class, was my best ride of the day and I didn't place. I'm not too chapped about that. It was an open equitation class: I competed with western, hunt seat and saddle seat equitation riders.  The riders who won all rode Arab/Half Arab horses.  Guess who didn't win? The rider on the Thoroughbred.... Nevertheless, Silver gave me a great canter in each direction and he was truly fun to ride.
So my trainer told me, we were going to start cantering in lessons. I have cantered about 3 times since my accident in late July. Not out of fear, not at first, but for pain...in the back...can't feel my left leg...ouch.

so today, she had me ride in the round pen because I was using a new bit, a full-cheek-copper-dr-bristol and we needed to work on transitions before cantering.  Also, the smaller ring would instill a bit of security for me at the canter....or so she thought.

For a horse who won at the track, he is not a fast mover, except in the show ring. So I'm in the warm up area at the NTC show and she is yelling more leg, more leg. And we get into the ring and it's Katie bar the door, whooshing around the ring, and she's yelling "sit back, sit back" because I have totally freaked out and I'm sitting too far forward. I thought I needed to sit in line with my stirrup bar.  Once I actually sat back, I rode tremendously better and my horse was easier to ride.  I no longer felt the need to revise the lyrics to Amazing Grace:

Amazing Grace, how sweet the sound that saved a wretch like me,
I pull at the reins, you're driving me insane,
when will this class end...please slow down,

you get the picture...and only my horse and the show photographer can hear me...But I AM BREATHING...
if ever there was an example of what not to do, I did it. Certainly not  balanced riding. Once I got my posture correct, everything else, just fell into place.

Back to today's lesson in the round pen. Pushing Silver at the trot to encourage forward momentum can be a very tiring thing. Usually, I ride with a crop to enhance my legs efforts.  It's hard to imagine this creature actually won money at the races -19 starts, 11 placings-.   So after trotting in endless circles, we started to canter. Except that I felt him slipping in one corner - do circles have corners?- and then after cantering a full rotation, I felt unbalanced. Was it the size of the round pen? Was it my slippery leather saddle? So, we moved to the large arena.  Oh, yes, that's the place to canter! Silver felt great! He has a lovely canter. So in control, even when he was on his left, troublesome lead. He felt good. I was sliding all over the place, but he felt good. This is my happy place, a nice, collected canter with plenty of space to move.

Today's Concepts: we worked on zig zagging hands when stopping or performing a half halt while cantering and pushing forward with the legs. Pushing the horse onto the bit, keeping his back round, with his back legs under him which keeps him collected and balanced. The left lead left me a little unbalanced, I was slipping all over my saddle - he had lots of energy - but once I sat up and put my shoulders back, he became engaged, collected and I became centered and balanced. Beautiful!

Saturday, October 22, 2016

Riding Lesson 3rd week October

Tuesdays riding lesson lasted about 10 minutes when my horse stumbled and started limping. I really felt bad trotting him so my trainer could see that he was in pain.  Fortunately for me, Laurie MacDonald, dressage enthusiast and saddle fitter extraordairie was at the barn. She came to fit some saddles on horses. My old Crosby, my precious saddle that I have loved on for over 20 years has been pronounced by Laurie as well as my trainer Kelsey Magid and Di Hopkins as being too small for me. As in, I should have never purchased it, it never actually fit.

The saddle I bought when I purchased Silver is an Equitation saddle and the fit was a little snug for mommy body. So I went on ebay and purchased a saddle, the morning I make a bid on a black Courbette Lemetex Husar, Kelsey tells me about a Crosby for sale in a Facebook Tack Trading page. So I bought the Crosby off Facebook and I won the ebay auction for the Courbette. Now I have 4 saddles, which one fits? Hence, Laurie's visit to the barn.  The equitation saddle fits Silver, but doesn't position me so well on him and it makes his back sore. Get rid of that saddle! No one needs a sore back. I think it makes my back sore, too!

The new 18 Crosby fits really nicely and my hips really open up at the walk, which means he opens up. Kelsey said when my hips start to swing in the saddle, he lifts his tail, expels gas - does this mean he is a gas powered pony- and rounds his back. I noticed in the Equitation saddle it was harder to loosen up my hips when walking. The Crosby is more open and a flatter type saddle so my legs and hips swing easier.

The Courbette is too narrow for Silver. What a bummer! I've always wanted a Courbette. I was disappointed to find out Courbette had been purchased by Stuebben a couple of years ago. Which explains the lack of Courbette's on the market.  So I'll condition the leather on the Courbette and resell it on ebay. I'm sure someone will like it for their narrow thoroughbred. Apparently, Silver is built more like a warmblood than the OTTB that he is.

On Thursday, I got to test ride my newly fitted Crosby on Silver. He seems to like it. It fits better over his shoulders and I can use my hips on the flatter/looser frame. Once I loosen my hips, he loosens up. What a concept!

I wore new riding breeches to my lesson, well that was a mistake, because they were way too big on me and caused rubbing in wrong places. Ugh!

It had rained early in the morning, so the arena was wet, which concerned me. I was worried that Silver would slip in the mud, even though Kelsey assured me it would not.  She has been working on me not "forcing" my heels down. To put my weight on the ball of my foot and not put the weight on my heels - this is the exact opposite of what I have heard for most of my riding life -  This new way of riding is called "balanced riding" - and you thought you were already balanced, right?  It totally befuddles me. Actually, it wouldn't be so hard to do, if I wasn't constantly trying to point my toes into the horse. I pronate, which means I ride in ballet's first position, my heels are digging into the horse.  Actually, my back of my leg is on the horse, instead of the side of my calf. I know I accomplished the side of my calf during Thursday's lesson because I have an ugly bruise on the side of my calf. And when I squeezed my legs, I could really feel it through my calves and thighs. I haven't been saddle sore in a couple of months, since I started riding "balanced"

I kept having problems on Thursday, I'm still not entirely sure what my deal was, if it was the wet arena, the wind that seemed to be freaking out my horse, that I wasn't on my a game because of allergies, the new saddle, the too big pants...my trainer has to be part psychologist to get me over my blocks. I kept losing my right stirrup and felt like I was unbalanced, I felt like I was all over the place and worried that I couldn't stop the horse. He never ran away with me, I was always in control.

She told me, "it's not him, it's you."  Well, that hurts to hear, I'd rather it be him, than me. But I can accept responsibility of my actions...I might not have understood why I was doing certain things with him, but I was always in control.   I finally told her, I can either point my toes inward or I can balance on the balls of my feet, but I can not do both at the same time. It's too much today.  So I am working on pointing my toes inward and keeping my heels off the horse.

We did some canter work where I bent his head in just a little, he would give and then I would release and push him forward.  I am constantly taking up my reins when I do this at the trot. I couldn't figure out why we were doing this at the canter. Part of it was to stay in control and  the other part to create/maintain suppleness of the horse.   I should probably give myself a break, I've cantered three or four times since I had my flying dismount in July - that could be freaking me out, too.
I'm hoping to go to a rated horse show next Sunday. I'm overly ambitious! So next week, we will start working on jumping. That fall really started me on a different training direction.  I need to build more self confidence in the saddle. And maybe get a pair of breeches that fit!


Vowan Gems Halloween Jewelry

Just in time for Halloween, from my Etsy shop: Vowangems   All Halloween jewelry is on sale!



Sexy Harlequin Witch Bamboo Tile and  Black Filigree Pendant on Purple Sari Ribbon   Halloween jewelry  Boho Necklace orig 20 dollars now 10
Sexy Harlequin Necklace

Black Halloween Cat Pendant on Purple Sari Ribbon    Halloween Jewelry   Fair Trade Silk Sari Ribbon Necklace   orig 16  dollars now 11 sale
Black Cat Necklace

Black cat and Jackolantern Pendant on Purple Fair TradeSilk Sari Ribbon     Bohemian Filigree Jewelry  orig 22 ndollars now 10 sale
Black Cat and Jackolntern Neckalce

Spooky Halloween Skull Pendant on Twilight Silk Sari Ribbon     Fair Trade  Upcycled Necklace  Filigree Jewelry originally 20 dollars now 10
Spooky Halloween Skull



for something that can be worn more often than Halloween, check these earrings out:
Twilight Moon Mixed Media Dangle Earrings Vintaj Brass  hand forged originally 27.50 now 13 fall sale
 Twilight Moon Earrings


Vintaj Brass Embossed Hand Forged Raven Earrings   Twilight Earrings   Blackbird    Earrings.    Originally 19 dollars now 9.50  sale

Raven Earrings




Tuesday, October 18, 2016

Hope

When I dropped Nathaniel off at school  Monday morning, his class was headed over to their class room in the other school building. We joined the class as they walked over. His teacher, MacFee tried to engage him but he was not interested in walking with her. He scanned his classmates and then he saw HER... He walked over and gently took her hand and they walked to class together . It was such a precious sight to behold.

And it's all the more precious and awesome because he has autism. My sweet boy, is social, has compassion and cares for others.  He totally does his best to be gentle with others. She is a young, small kindergartner and he is so much taller than her. They looked so cute with each other. One of the other boys, Lucas is infatuated with her, too. But he has no clue how to interact with her, so he pokes her in the face, in the eyes and of course, it makes her mad. And it makes Nathaniel mad, too. I hope he doesn't get into too many altercations protecting her. 

It really makes my heart happy to see him with her.   There is hope. 

Monday, October 17, 2016

Mommy meltdowns

Ever have one of those days where you just want to scream? at your children?

All the time, but this was one of those days where I snapped. I confess, I yelled and had a hissy fit because my son with autism absolutely refused to get dressed.

He was running around the house in just his underwear, which under normal circumstances wouldn't have bothered me too much. Except the toilet in the bathroom he shares with his twin sister had overflowed...thankfully, it was just pee and not the other. Small favors, right?  And this wouldn't have been a big deal, if I hadn't noticed water dripping out of the kitchen cabinets and into my kitchen aid mixing bowl. Ewww! Gross!

So I had to empty the cabinets. In a way it was good to empty the cabinets because I really hadn't organized the cabinets since we moved into the house 9 1/2 months ago.

The leak was strange because only one shelf was wet, the bottom shelf.  Well, where is the water coming from. Oh no! It's coming from the other cabinet with the food.  Another small favor, it is not coming from that side.  I think it's flowing down the middle where the two cabinets connect.  That's just great, there is sewage water seeping through the second floor and inbetween the two cabinets. Oh joy!
He comes into the kitchen in just his underwear and I tell him for what seems like the upteenth time to: Put some clothes on!
"No!"

"no, really put some clothes on"

"No!"

"Did you just tell me 'no'?"

I threw a bag of carmel popcorn across the kitchen...he knew he was in trouble then...but he kept telling me no.  I yelled louder, he yelled louder.  He put his hands over his ears but was not willing to get dressed.  We yelled at each other as we climbed the stairs to his room.  Finally, we get to his room and he yells and tells me he is angry at me.  And I tell him, I'm angry at him for not getting dressed.  I go into his closet and found an easy to get on outfit... and he gets dressed.   This is not a good Mommy of Autistic Son moment. I realized how awful it must have been for him to have me fly off the handle like that. I didn't use any coping skills. I just screamed at him for not complying with my requests. I wanted him to be dressed in case I had a plumber come over or I needed him to go outside.

Finally, he calms down enough to tell me, he had come into the kitchen to complain that his Halloween costume had been moved from the bottom rack to the top rack. I told him I had moved it because it was so bulky, it took up too much room on the lower rack for his everyday clothes. So I moved it to the upper rack with his other costumes.  But it's Batman!
Yes, I understand, you want it closer to you but it takes up to much room on the lower rack.  Should we get rid of some of the clothes on the lower rack, to make room for your Batman costume?
He agreed we should, but he wasn't ready to cull his clothes right then.
And we haven't yet.

So he spent most of his day in a ready to fight mood.  He got mad at church coffee hour because there wasn't a water pitcher. Since I had the only two children at the church coffee hour, I just got two cups, added ice and was about to fill the cups with water from the faucet when he freaked out. He refused to drink water from the faucet, it had to be from a water pitcher. I was not going to that much trouble. His sister agreed to drink the water I offered her.  I finally just put his water filled cup on a table and walked away.  He got thirsty enough and drank it.

He went home with Daddy and "helped" fix the toilet.  I took Emma to a classmate's birthday party at  Pump It Up . Always a fun time at Pump it Up. All that jumping and climbing really wears a kid out. It gave me a chance to chill out.

When we got home, Dad was chilling with the boy watching Ice Age: Collision Course.  Nathaniel spent most of the movie cuddling with Dad.

After the movie, the kids rode there bikes and he had a little fall. I was wearing flip flops and couldn't run fast enough to get to him. In fact, one of our neighbors from across the street heard, N shouting and came over to see if he was okay.  I thought that was rather sweet. I explained to our neighbor "He fell off his bike, he's fine. he has sensory issues."
Welcome to my world.  I got N back on his bike and he gets irate that his sister took two objects off the swing. "it's not fair!"  "She's not being nice."  Well, they belonged to her, one was a part of her bike and the other was a pumpkin ball from her party bag.  "But I wanted it!"
"Oh sweetie, you need dinner, a shower and to go to bed"  Of course, he didn't like that.
But he eagerly at his ravioli, chocolate ice cream (very small bowl) but getting into the shower was just delay, after delay, after delay - although, it was nice of him to put his shoes in his closet and to put his clothes in the hamper - I wanted to yell, "get in the damn shower, already!" but I held my tongue.
And then he spent too much time running around the house naked. It is not amusing - well, maybe to him. But I found it annoying. And that's probably why he does it.

Saturday, October 15, 2016

Don't judge a box by its cover

So my husband and I moved our family three days before Christmas 2015. I almost killed him for moving our household right before Christmas. The kids didn't have beds, we provided sleeping bags and pillows and they thought it was great fun, camping indoors. Our new house was piled high with moving boxes. I was able to find most of the kids Christmas gifts in time for Saint Nicholas' visit to our new home. I'm still finding gifts from last Christmas, I'll just wrap them and give them this year, right?

We've unpacked all of the boxes in the house, but quite a few remain in the garage and my new art studio. I've been missing some horse tack for what seems like months - 10 most likely -  Two weeks ago, my husband decided it was time to move the minivan into the garage. Not sure why he decided it was time, the spring thunderstorms and tornados have passed us by safely, I might add.

Although, the week between Christmas and New Year's Eve was especially scary for North Texas. We had been experiencing especially mild winter weather, when one evening the temperatures dropped about 30 degrees and we had a thunderstorm. We hadn't been in our new house a week, when the tornado alert sirens started blaring.  We stared at the tv watching the tornado's direction - coming right toward our house- My brother - in - law called us and said not to stand next to the windows. In our new house, it's hard not to stand near a window or a French door leading outside, plenty of light in this house as opposed to the ranch house cavern we used to live in. I was mentally assessing the situation, could I lower the children through the  pier and beam access holes in the kitchen or utility room faster when he called. And luckily for us, the tornado changed direction, but not so lucky for hundreds of people living in Rowlett and Garland. They lost homes, loved ones,  pets, cars, etc. We knew people who lost everything when the tornado rampaged through their neighborhood.

So my husband cleared out a spot in the garage for the minivan. He found some storage containers  labeled Lights and Christmas, so naturally I opened the boxes expecting to find Christmas lights. Much to my delight, I discovered 4 headstalls, 5 bits, 5 sets of leather braided reins, only 1 green shipping boot, 4 green polo wraps, a breast plate, a martingale, 3 sets of stirrup leathers including one set still in package, a cavasson, lunge line, bent out of shape lunge whip, various training aids but nothing in a complete set, and some western equipment. I was overjoyed to find my pelham double bridle and my first nice flat leather hunt bridle!  Today I oiled Dolly's leather halter,and 4 english bridles along with 5 sets of reins.  Perhaps next week, I will tackle the martingale, breast plate and english stirrup leathers. I told my trainer with all this equipment, I needed another horse - like a hole in the head -



Friday, October 14, 2016

What's that on my porch - it's from Dover Saddlery!

So the UPS delivery man and I crossed paths as I was rolling out of the driveway on my bicycle this afternoon. He brought me a very long and narrow package and a small, white package from Dover.
What was in my Dover package? I had totally forgotten. I had already heard from Dover Saddlery that the Charles Owen helmet did not come in my size but the Charles Owen GR8 did - only double the cost. Grr! But I must be able to tuck my hair under my helmet when I show in rated horse shows. Showing is so much more expensive than just entry fees, coaching and getting the horse to the show.
I'm also looking at purchasing custom  made to order riding breeches in show tan. Gag, $250 for show tan full seat riding breeches because so few brands carry my size - rolling eyes.
When I came back from my bike ride thirty minutes later, I took my Dover package off the front porch. Much to my delight my Ariat black and white horse shirt arrived! I had totally forgot about ordering it as I was more concerned about the Charles Owen show helmet. I'm going to a rated show in a couple of weeks and I need something other than my Tipperary schooling helmet to protect my head.

Ariat White horse shirt Fall 2016

Such a cute shirt! It reminds me of a Eagles Eye shirt, I owned back in the late 80's/early 90's.  I could get a lot of wear from this shirt. Wear it with jeans, black pants, wear it around town, to the barn, to the saddle shop if it fit.  I could get a lot of wear from this shirt if it fit. I ordered an XL, it feels like a large, I could not button it. If I wore a tank under it and wore it like a jacket, it might work...that's something to mull over.  I love Ariat products but this one runs a bit small.  Back to Dover Saddlery it goes, maybe I can get a credit for that Charles Owen helmet that does fit.

My long, narrow package contains a metal horse shoe ribbon rack. I purchased it mainly for my kids horse show ribbons. Last spring, they both competed in the Equest Spring Horse Show and brought back pretty ribbons. Nathaniel came in first place in his division - he said he would have preferred green ribbons, his favorite color. While his sister earned a second place and third place ribbon - she rides with older children in her division, so I was very proud of her accomplishment.


I originally saw an ad in Practical Horseman magazine for Marbeth Metal Products and was going to order it on my mobile device but decided I didn't want to jinx my luck (or ribbons) so I would wait until after my first show last weekend.  I was excited to find Marbeth Metal Products on Etsy, so I ordered the horse shoe show ribbon rack from them on Etsy after the show.

Currently, my ribbons are hanging in my closet.Clearly, a new place is needed to display my pretty ribbons while not getting in the way of my jewelry and belt collection. I need to find a wall to display my ribbons, as well as my children's ribbons.


Thursday, October 13, 2016

Zulily Packages


A Zulily box was on my front doorstep this morning!  I love when I get packages from Zulily, it's a mini-Christmas morning for me. I order clothing, hair accessories, toys, books, fragrances, shoes, lingerie, pj's,  for the family but the delivery time to my doorstop is about 3-4 weeks from the order. I don't always remember what's in the box, although Zulily is good about letting me know when parts of my order ship - notice I said parts of my order. I've noticed that my order doesn't ship all together,  I used to make it a point to purchase something for my son when I've ordered a lot of things for his twin sister, so when the order came in, he had something, too. But I've stopped doing that because the items in the order often don't arrive at the same time. I might get a box filled with Zulily goodies from 2 or 3 orders or one item at a time in some cases.


So today's order was from  two different orders and it did contain something for my son. I'm sure he will be thrilled with his new E-Land Kids chambray shirt - no, he would rather have a toy or Legos.  My daughter actually got a big haul this morning: a pink feathery hair accessory, a Tutu & Lulu mustard yellow and blue floral ruffle dress, a Tutu & Lulu  Christmas tunic with red polka dot leggings and a Tutu and Lulu pink and blue floral ruffle dress and pant set. I was not left out, I got Spanx lingerie!
Tutu & Lulu outfits for my daughter!

  
Another Tutu & Lulu outfit! Won't this be cute for Christmas?